Archive for the Relationships Category


The History of Sex: The 20th Century

Let’s Talk! The 20th century was a period during which the perception of sex and sexual practices of Americans significantly changed. In 2014, the History Channel aired a documentary titled The History of Sex: The 20th Century, which explores the various factors that contributed to this transformation. The following are highlights from this documentary up […]

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Touch

Let’s Talk! We live in an age where there are countless ways to stay connected with others. Modern technology like cell phones, laptops and iPads give us 24-hour access to applications such as e-mail, instant messaging, Facebook and Skype. People tend to spend more time communicating online than engaging in face-to-face conversations and having physical […]

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Radical Honesty

Let’s Talk! How honest are you? According to American psychotherapist Brad Blanton Ph.D., the controversial author of Radical Honesty (1996), most people lie daily about themselves and others. In the late 1990’s Audrey Hope, the host of the program Reel Women, interviewed Dr. Blanton. The following is a summary of that interview. Most people live […]

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The Economy of Sex

Let’s Talk! In September 2013 in Los Angeles, Dr. Wendy Walsh gave a 1-hour lecture titled The Economy of Sex based on her book The 30-Day Love Detox. Dr. Wendy Walsh PhD is a Canadian psychotherapist who is an expert on love, sex, parenting, gender roles and divorce matters. She makes appearances on well-known shows […]

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Matthew Hussey – Get The Guy

Let’s Talk! A few months ago, I stumbled on a Youtube video by British television personality, author, and human dynamics coach Matthew Hussey. Although Hussey is only 27-years old, he brings a fresh and insightful perspective in the area of human relationships and self-improvement. The best-selling author is the creator of the popular GetTheGuy dating […]

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Casual Sexual Relationships

Let’s Talk! I was recently talking with an acquaintance who voiced her concern about her  daughter’s exposure to the hookup culture prevalent in Canadian universities.  She feared that by engaging in casual sexual relationships, her daughter could be hurt on an emotional, psychological and physical level. But what are casual sexual relationships and how do […]

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Oral

Let’s Talk! A few years ago, I stumbled on a DVD by leading sex educator Jaiya titled Oral Sex for Couples.  The sleeve claimed that this DVD contained over 40 techniques that can help us take our oral sex skills to a new level of mastery – and it was only the first of a […]

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The Kiss

Let’s Talk! “Talking about kissing is like humming about fire.  Words are insufficient to describe the experience. Still we try, because kissing is an experience that must be shared.” The Kiss p.4 The above excerpt is from a miniature book appropriately titled The Kiss.  The book is a collection of beautiful photographs of kissing couples […]

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Private Matters TV: Sexy After Cancer

Let’s Talk! I recently stumbled on an intriguing television program titled Private Matters TV.  This program is hosted by Holland born producer Max J. Van Praag and covers unusual topics such as bondage/discipline, polyamory, group marriage and tantra. Private Matters is broadcasted on Channel 26 in Marin County, California, and some of its 40 episodes […]

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The Biology of Belief

Let’s Talk! About a decade ago, I read an intriguing book titled The Biology of Belief by American biologist Bruce Lipton Ph.D in which he explored how beliefs switch on or off genes. In 2010, Lipton presented his groundbreaking ideas at a conference titled The Biology of Perception.  The following is a summary of his […]

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Morphic Resonance

Let’s Talk! Modern science’s worldview is dominated by the Newtonian paradigm.  If something cannot be measured using the 5 senses, it is deemed unreal and therefore irrelevant. Fortunately, there are scientists who are breaking free from these restrictions and dare to put forth unconventional ideas. One of these leading-edge thinkers is British biologist and author […]

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Proof of Heaven

Let’s Talk! Most people have heard of near-death experiences (NDE).  Depending on a number of factors such as culture, age and education, some may believe these accounts while others may not. I recently read a book titled Proof of Heaven by American neurosurgeon Eben Alexander that details his very unique NDE.  Alexander admits that before […]

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The Law of Attraction: A Critique

Let’s Talk! It’s the start of a new year.  Most of us will reflect on the events of the past year, and set new goals for 2014.  Some may decide to take action and make substantial changes in their lives such as choosing a different career, moving to another city or ending an unhealthy relationship. […]

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The Truth Factor

Let’s Talk! Let’s start by watching the following movie clip: This is, of course, the famous scene from the film A Few Good Men (1992) starring Tom Cruise, Jack Nicholson, Demi Moore and Kevin Bacon. This courtroom thriller tells the story of how inexperienced Navy lawyer LT Kaffee (Cruise) defends two Marines accused of murdering […]

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A Girl’s Guide to 21st Century Sex: A Review

Let’s Talk! In 2006, the UK public TV ran an 8-episode documentary titled A Girl’s Guide to 21st Century Sex hosted by Dr. Catherine Hood, Sexual Health and Relationship Expert.  This series is 4 ½ hours long and touches on various aspects of sex such as orgasms, sex positions, sexual transmitted infections (STIs) and penis […]

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Love: A Healer’s Perspective

Let’s Talk! “(…) the mind does not really ‘know’ anything.  If anything, it only knows ‘about’, and it cannot really know because to really know means to be that which is known (…)” David R. Hawkins, The Eye of the I Throughout my life I have heard people casually use the word ‘love’.  For example, […]

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Real Love in Marriage

Let’s talk! Can couples have an unconditionally loving marriage?  Author Dr. Greg Baer explores this topic in his book Real Love in Marriage, which is the sequel to his first book Real Love. I will highlight some of the practical advice found in this paperback that can help us have a happy union. Baer summarizes […]

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The Dating Game

Let’s Talk! About a month ago, I saw the movie “Before Midnight” which is the sequel to “Before Sunrise” and “Before Sunset”.  Many people in the theatre were emotionally drained after watching this latest installment because it truthfully depicts how most romantic relationships deteriorate overtime. As I was walking out of the theatre I pointed […]

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Consent

Let’s Talk! You’ve been on a few dates with your new beau.  Although you have kissed, you delayed having sex because you don’t want him to think that you’re an “easy” woman.  But after a few weeks, your hormones are raging and you impulsively sleep with him.   You soon find out that he is married […]

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The Magdalen Manuscript

Let’s Talk! A few weeks ago, I read a book titled The Magdalen Manuscript by Tom Kenyon and Judi Sion. I was very intrigued by the title, as I’ve often wondered about the real identity and role of Mary Madgdalen in Jesus’ life. Also, I questioned the true place that women held in early Christianity […]

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Transcendental Meditation & Pregnancy

Let’s Talk! “During pregnancy, the mother and the fetus are really only one entity and birth is the process of One Becoming Many.  In this role, every woman is a creator of life and she should be referred to and worshiped as such.” Dr. Guy-Paul Gagné MD, FRCS, FSOGC I recently attended a seminar titled […]

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Mirror, Mirror

Let’s Talk! We live in a world that values physical beauty. Most of us are judged by how we present ourselves in various situations. Within seconds people attribute particular inner qualities to others based on their looks. But what exactly makes someone attractive? According to Wikipedia, attractiveness is defined as “a quality that causes an […]

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The Emotion Code

Let’s Talk! Two years ago, I attended a conference at the Metro Toronto Convention Center that featured a speaker named Dr. Bradley Nelson.  Dr. Nelson is an American Chiropractor with 25 years of private and virtual practice as well as the author The Emotion Code and The Body Code System.  I will give an overview […]

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Tantric Orgasm for Women

Let’s Talk! “(…) sex just has to be part of your religious life, it has to be something sacred. Sex has to be something not obscene, not pornographic, not condemned, not repressed but immensely respected, because we are born out of it.(…)” Osho, Transcribed Teachings, Sex Matters: From Sex to Superconsciousness Many years ago, I […]

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The Eye of the I

Let’s Talk! On September 19, 2012 in Sedona Arizona, Sir David Ramon Hawkins M.D. Ph.D., made his transition to the spirit world. He was 85 years old. Dr. Hawkins died peacefully and is survived by his loving wife Susan J. Hawkins and his two stepdaughters. For me and for many of his devoted followers, his […]

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Erotic Fantasies

Let’s Talk! Imagine the following scene: “Jenise slowly unlocked his manacled wrists. Perhaps she had made a mistake. Gian was much more imposing standing before her, unchained! … He expertly cornered her. His large hands reaching under her hood, tossing it back…. “Turn and face the wall.” … A deep growling sound of hunger issued […]

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Pheromones: the Chemical Messenger

Let’s Talk! Most of us try to put our best foot forward when we’re trying to attract a romantic partner. For example, we tend to wear clothes that accentuate our best physical attributes, and we engage in intelligent and witty conversations. But what if there are other subtle factors affecting how attractive we are to […]

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In Their Shoes

Let’s Talk! In her brief article titled “Empathetic Vibration”, American scholar Emily Ochoa remarked that “the opposite of love is not hate, but indifference”.  I think this statement points to a truth that is rarely explored.  Therefore, I wanted to examine the concept of empathy and gain a better understanding of its impact on human […]

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The Green-Eyed Monster

Let’s Talk! “O! beware, my lord, of jealousy; It is the green-eyed monster which doth mock The meat it feeds on.” William Shakespeare, Othello At some point in our lives most of us will experience jealousy. This emotion can be felt in various relationships from friendships, co-workers, and family members. However, romantic relationships are of […]

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Unfaithful

Let’s Talk! It is difficult to avoid the topic of romantic infidelity.  Magazine covers that focus on the lives of celebrities often display headlines about who’s breaking up, and who cheated on whom.  The recent scandals of the philanderings of apparently happily married public figures such as Tiger Woods and Arnold Schwarzenegger remind us that […]

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Tantric Sex

Let’s Talk! You may have heard of the term Tantra used in the context of New Age sexual techniques.  It is often portrayed as some mysterious practice that enables people to reach higher levels of sexual satisfaction. Even popular television shows such as Sex and the City had an episode that mentioned a few of […]

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Real Love

Let’s talk! “…You’re on your way to a town two hours away.…You’re going because everyone there is genuinely happy. They’re happy because they feel loved.  In this place there is no fear or anger. You sense with absolute certainty that the only concern of everyone in that town is your happiness.…You can see that it […]

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Time to Say Goodbye

Let’s Talk The honeymoon phase of your relationship is over.  Reality sets in and you realize that you have much less in common with your mate than you originally thought.  You may have discovered some disturbing facts about your partner that s/he carefully hid from you because you would have never accepted to date him/her […]

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Sex, Sexual Orientation & Gender: An Overview

Let’s Talk Many of us take our sex and gender identities for granted.  In fact, one of the characteristics that we usually notice about people when we first meet them is their sex (male or female) and their presumed sexual orientation (heterosexual, bisexual, homosexual).  These assumptions affect how we interact with people because of societal […]

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More than “Just Friends”

Let’s Talk! “It broke my heart when I ended my friendship with my best friend” he said. “Did you talk about it with your other friends?” I asked. “No, I thought it would be weird to admit to my other guy friends that I was so affected by that” he replied. “It took me a […]

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Motherless and Fearful

Let’s Talk! About a month ago, I listened to a radio interview of Canadian author/businessman Tom Watson about his book Man Shoes. This hardcover is an autobiography in which he details the key life-changing events in his life. Watson stated that he survived child abuse, upheaval and 13 foster homes by the time he was […]

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Soulmates

Let’s Talk! The search for the ideal romantic partner seems to be a constant preoccupation in North America. Books, movies, dating sites, television shows all nourish hopes of finding that elusive “right” partner. And let’s be honest, even the most cynical amongst us must admit that the idea of spending the rest of our lives […]

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From Innocence to Wisdom

Let’s Talk! A few weeks ago, I was in a line-up at the grocery store, and I noticed behind me a young child in a stroller. What caught my and other people’s attention was that she wore bright pink from head to toe – her hat, coat, t-shirt, pants, shoes and even her stroller were […]

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The Trust Factor

Let’s Talk! Recently I’ve been wondering why so few people are truly excited about their mates. You may have noticed that most people involved in long-term relationships are often cynical about their partner. Although it is a common attitude, is this normal? What is the missing element that sustains passion in a romantic relationship over […]

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The Dark Side of the Big “O”

Let’s Talk! Many books on sexuality promote orgasm as the ultimate goal of sexual encounters. Also, most men view making their woman come as proof that they are good lovers. However, there is dark side to frequent intense orgasms, and it is rarely discussed. This hidden negative effect can put both our emotional health and […]

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Power Versus Force

Let’s Talk! Spiritual gurus abound in the New Age movement in North America, and consequently it is difficult to differentiate between the real spiritual teachers and the false ones. An acquaintance recently told me about a controversial paperback titled Power Versus Force by the American Psychiatrist David R. Hawkins, and I was very impressed by […]

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Is it Written in the Stars?

Let’s Talk! I have always been skeptical of the common horoscope column in magazines and newspapers. Although my Sun sign is Aries, I have never been able to recognize myself as the impulsive and unfocused Aries women that is often described. You may also have noticed that many individuals in your circle of family and […]

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Blood is Thicker than Water?

Let’s Talk! It’s the holiday season, and a time for family gatherings. Unfortunately for many, it is a sad period because they will spend time with their close relatives. Recent Canadian statistics indicate that 12% (40, 200 cases) of reported violent crimes are committed against a spouse, of which 83% of the victims are women. […]

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He’s Just NOT that Into You

Let’s Talk! In 2004, the book titled He’s Just Not That Into You was published and soon became a New York Times bestseller. This self-improvement paperback written by Greg Behrendt and Liz Tuccillo gave practical advice to women who were trying to determine if a particular man was seriously interested in them. The dating game […]

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Erotica Versus Pornography

Let’s Talk! North American society is currently inundated with sexual content. Some of the sexual images that are displayed are controversial. This trend may prompt us to wonder what is considered a healthy portrayal of human sexuality versus what is offensive—and more specifically, what is the difference between erotica and pornography? The dictionary defines the […]

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Happily Ever After

Let’s Talk! In the fall of 2009, David Letterman asked Madonna if she would consider remarriage. Madonna sarcastically replied that she would “rather get run over by a train.” Sadly, she echoed the sentiments of many divorced and currently married people. In Canada the divorce rate is 38% by the 30th year of marriage. This […]

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The First Time

Let’s Talk! The first time was supposed to be magical, just like in the movies and romance novels. The man barely touched her, and both were already moaning with pleasure. A few pelvis thrusts later (in the missionary position!), and they came exactly at the same time.  Actual fireworks could be heard in the background. […]

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Intimacy & Sweatpants

Let’s Talk! “Sex is easy, but intimacy is difficult” recently said an acquaintance of mine. I agreed with him because sex may only involve the body, while emotional intimacy requires you to reveal the unseen that can put you in a vulnerable position. That’s why the word intimacy broken down means “into me see”. When […]

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Please Dump the Frog!

Let’s Talk! You think “I can’t stand this guy”. Actually, you felt that way right from moment your best friend Jennifer introduced Bob to you. It is obvious to everyone around that he is a bad seed that should have never been planted in Jennifer’s garden. Somehow, your friend perceives Bob as the Prince Charming […]

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To Fake it or not to Fake it ? – That is the Question

Let’s Talk! It’s 11:30 pm, you’re having sex with your mate. You both have been going at it for at least 20 minutes, and you know that you’re no where close to having an orgasm. You’re tired and you think “I have to wake up at 6:00 am tomorrow morning, I have a leg cramp […]

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